Do not expose yourself to what does not concern you.

It is reported that ʿUmar b. Al-Khaṭṭāb – Allāh be pleased with him – said:

Do not expose yourself to what does not concern you, stay away from your enemy, beware of [taking as] your friend anyone except the trustworthy amongst people – and there is no one who is trustworthy except one who fears Allāh; and do not accompany the sinner in case you learn his sinfulness, and do not let him know your secrets, and consult those who fear Allāh for your affairs.

Ibn Abī Shaybah, Al-Muṣannaf 34476.


The goal and purpose of fasting is taqwa.

{“O you who believe! Fasting was prescribed for you as it was prescribed for those before you, so that you may acheive taqwa.”}

Such is the overall goal and purpose of fasting announced: it is taqwa. So, taqwa is what wakes up in the heart, while it is fulfilling this obligation, the obedience to Allah and the pursuit of His Pleasure. Taqwa is what shields these hearts from ruining one’s fast with sins, even those that simply appear in their conscience. And those whom the Qur’an is addressing know the value of taqwa with Allah, as it is a goal that their souls yearn for! And this fasting is simply one path to this goal. As a result, raised before their eyes is a goal and a guiding light that leads them by way of fasting…{so that you may acheive taqwa.”}”

[‘Fi Dhilal al-Qur’an’; 1/167-168]

I said that as a Muslim I believe in pre-destiny, and so if this was what was meant to be, then my cooperating with you will not change that fact.

I said that as a Muslim I believe in pre-destiny, and so if this was what was meant to be, then my cooperating with you will not change that fact.  If you were going to bring them, then that is their destiny and it is something that cannot be changed. Do whatever you want. I also said that if it is not meant to be, not you, or your dog Bush, will be able to touch them as I believe that Allah is stronger than all of you. 

Ali al-Marri

“Do not expose your spouse!”

One day, I was sitting with the scholars and my teacher jokingly asked a student, “How is your new marriage!”, the student replied, “Alhamdulillah!, I am really enjoying it except she puts too much salt in the food (he laughed)” The shaykh got upset and said, “Do not expose your wife!”

If we are not even supposed to disclose things as small as this then imagine the blameworthiness of talking to others about the privacy of physical relationships, sharing personal sins, discussing bad habits and exposing the fighting that takes place in our homes. Before it was about the exposing of the tongue. Now it is about exposing of the thumbs. If any teacher in Damascus ever got divorced and nosy people began to investigate, they would say, “I will not speak about a woman from the Prophet’s ummah except with good. She is precious to Rasūl’Allāh ﷺ. She is the daughter of another man and she will be the wife of another person!” This is adab.

Muhammad Aslam.