The believer does not seek self-revenge; he deals with his enemy with patience and his friend with tolerance. Self-revenge does not fulfill one’s goal. The Prophet ﷺ said concerning the best kind of Īmān, “Patience and tolerance.”
المؤمن لا ينتصر لنفسه يتعامل مع عدوّه بصبر ومع صديقه بسماحه، فالانتصار للنفس لا يوصل إلى الغاية قال النبي ﷺ عن أفضل الإيمان (الصبر والسماحة)
“A friend will not (literally) share your struggles, an a loved one cannot physically take away your pain, and a close one will not stay up the night on your behalf…so look after yourself, protect it, nurture it…and don’t give life’s events more than what they are really worth…Be certain that when you break no one will heal you except you, and when you are defeated no one will give you victory except your determination…your ability to stand up again and carry on is your responsibility…Do not look for your self worth in the eyes of people; look for your worth from within your conscience…if your conscience is at peace then you will ascend high…and if you truly know yourself then what is said about you won’t harm you.
Do not carry the worries of this life… because this is for Allah…and do not carry the worries of sustenance because it is from Allah…and do not carry the anxiety for the future because it is in the Hands of Allah…
Carry one thing: How to Please Allah. Because if you please Him, He Pleases you, fulfills you and enriches you. Do not weep from a life that made your heart weep…just say “oh Allah compensate me with good in this life and the hereafter”.
Sadness departs with a sajdah…happiness comes with a sincere du’a…Allah Does Not forget the good you do…nor Do He Forget the good you did to others and the pain you relieved them from…Nor Will He Forget the eye which was about to cry but you made it laugh…
Live your life with this principle: Be good even if you don’t receive good…not because of other’s sake but because Allah Loves the good doers”.
The worst of all friends is he who sees his friend crossing the limits of Allah but opts to remain silent, fearing that their friendship could be affected, despite the Hereafter of his friend that is falling apart before his very eyes..
“..a worst type of friend”
(Al-Qur’an, Surah 43, Ayah 38)
“You cannot live alone. Do not live alone, as the wolf eats up the lone sheep, and Satan is close to the one who is alone and is farther from two who are together. So, if you live somewhere, live with at least one other person, and this one person should be righteous.
Friends are like a row of connected test tubes: if liquid overflows in one tube, the excess flows into the other tubes until there is an equal amount of liquid in all the tubes. Likewise, if you live with corrupt people, they will take away many of your good deeds, and you will decrease and decrease and decrease until you are all equal in status. You will definitely end up like these interconnected test tubes. A group of friends are all like each other, and the longer the friendship lasts, the closer the character and manners of each person in the group will be to the others. Do not believe that a good person can live for long with a corrupt person, unless the corrupt person improves and follows the example of the good person.
This is why you should look for the good people, and a friend is like a chain: he will either drag you into Paradise or drag you into Hell. He will either cause you problems or he will help you solve your problems…
Sh Abdullah Rahimahullah.
Taken from iskandrani
One of the most disturbing realities about the Day of Judgement is that you will find yourself unable to hand over a single good deed to your mother, father, child, spouse or friend, despite your intense love for them, for you will be just as desperate for every good deed as they are.
On the other hand, you will be forced to hand over your good deeds to people whom you’d despised, people whom you’d back stabbed, mocked, abused or oppressed in any way.
Isn’t it such a strange contrast?
All of a sudden, it becomes clear why one of the names of this Day is ‘Yowmul Hasra’/ ‘The Day of regret’
وَأَنْذِرْهُمْ يَوْمَ الْحَسْرَةِ إِذْ قُضِيَ الْأَمْرُ وَهُمْ فِي غَفْلَةٍ وَهُمْ لَا يُؤْمِنُونَ
“And warn them of the Day of Regret, when the matter will be decided; and yet, they are in a state of carelessness, and they do not believe.”
(Al-Qur’an, Surah 19, Ayah 39)
1) Ponder over the above yet again.
2) Without a second thought, rush to s/he whom you owe an apology.