Psychology

All sciences related to psychology and spirituality do not equate with “knowledge of Allah”, because the purpose of these sciences is to achieve happiness, and the more a person knows Allah the more happy he is with His blessings and the more patient he is with His afflictions.

كل العلوم النفسية والروحية لا تساوي (العلم بالله) لأن غاية هذه العلوم السعادة، وكلما كان الإنسان بالله أعلم فهو بنعمته أسعد وعلى بلائه أصبر

Sh Tarefe

Parenting

Tarbiyyah (upbringing) of children is among the greatest deeds that do not cease, for every good deed that they learn and act upon the reward is for the one who taught them, and if they go on to teach their children the reward would be for the first teacher.

تربية الأولاد من أعظم الأعمال التي لا تنقطع، فكل عمل صالح تعلموه وعملوا به فالأجر لمن علّمهم ولو علَّموا ذرياتهم لكان الأجر للمعلّم الأول

Sh Tarefe

Sadness

Truly in the heart there is a void that can not be removed except with the company of Allah. And in it there is a sadness that can not be removed except with the happiness of knowing Allah and being true to Him. And in it there is an emptiness that can not be filled except with love for Him and by turning to Him and always remembering Him. And if a person were given all of the world and what is in it, it would not fill this emptiness.

Ibn Qayyim Al-Jawziyya

Struggles.

“A friend will not (literally) share your struggles, an a loved one cannot physically take away your pain, and a close one will not stay up the night on your behalf…so look after yourself, protect it, nurture it…and don’t give life’s events more than what they are really worth…Be certain that when you break no one will heal you except you, and when you are defeated no one will give you victory except your determination…your ability to stand up again and carry on is your responsibility…Do not look for your self worth in the eyes of people; look for your worth from within your conscience…if your conscience is at peace then you will ascend high…and if you truly know yourself then what is said about you won’t harm you.

Do not carry the worries of this life… because this is for Allah…and do not carry the worries of sustenance because it is from Allah…and do not carry the anxiety for the future because it is in the Hands of Allah…

Carry one thing: How to Please Allah. Because if you please Him, He Pleases you, fulfills you and enriches you. Do not weep from a life that made your heart weep…just say “oh Allah compensate me with good in this life and the hereafter”.
Sadness departs with a sajdah…happiness comes with a sincere du’a…Allah Does Not forget the good you do…nor Do He Forget the good you did to others and the pain you relieved them from…Nor Will He Forget the eye which was about to cry but you made it laugh…

Live your life with this principle: Be good even if you don’t receive good…not because of other’s sake but because Allah Loves the good doers”.

Ibn Qayyim

On Tarbiyah (upbringing).

Tarbiyyah (upbringing) of children is among the greatest deeds that do not cease, for every good deed that they learn and act upon the reward is for the one who taught them, and if they go on to teach their children the reward would be for the first teacher.

تربية الأولاد من أعظم الأعمال التي لا تنقطع، فكل عمل صالح تعلموه وعملوا به فالأجر لمن علّمهم ولو علَّموا ذرياتهم لكان الأجر للمعلّم الأول

Sh Abdul Aziz at-Tarefe

Not everything has a replacement.

You know, it really is from Allah’s mercy upon our weak selves that He hasn’t connected absolute happiness to anything other than Him.

Not to wives, husbands, jobs, children, countries, wealth, health or anything else, as these matters, if lost, can be replaced, or at least partly replaced.

But if Allah is lost in the life of a person, what can replace Him?

True misery isn’t in losing any of the above, but when the irreplaceable One is lost!

مَنْ عَمِلَ صَالِحًا مِنْ ذَكَرٍ أَوْ أُنْثَى وَهُوَ مُؤْمِنٌ فَلَنُحْيِيَنَّهُ حَيَاةً طَيِّبَةً

“Whoever does good, whether male or female, while he is a believer – We will surely cause him to live a happy life..”

[Al-Qur’an, Surah 16, Ayah 97]

Ali Hammuda