Parenting

Tarbiyyah (upbringing) of children is among the greatest deeds that do not cease, for every good deed that they learn and act upon the reward is for the one who taught them, and if they go on to teach their children the reward would be for the first teacher.

تربية الأولاد من أعظم الأعمال التي لا تنقطع، فكل عمل صالح تعلموه وعملوا به فالأجر لمن علّمهم ولو علَّموا ذرياتهم لكان الأجر للمعلّم الأول

Sh Tarefe

Struggles.

“A friend will not (literally) share your struggles, an a loved one cannot physically take away your pain, and a close one will not stay up the night on your behalf…so look after yourself, protect it, nurture it…and don’t give life’s events more than what they are really worth…Be certain that when you break no one will heal you except you, and when you are defeated no one will give you victory except your determination…your ability to stand up again and carry on is your responsibility…Do not look for your self worth in the eyes of people; look for your worth from within your conscience…if your conscience is at peace then you will ascend high…and if you truly know yourself then what is said about you won’t harm you.

Do not carry the worries of this life… because this is for Allah…and do not carry the worries of sustenance because it is from Allah…and do not carry the anxiety for the future because it is in the Hands of Allah…

Carry one thing: How to Please Allah. Because if you please Him, He Pleases you, fulfills you and enriches you. Do not weep from a life that made your heart weep…just say “oh Allah compensate me with good in this life and the hereafter”.
Sadness departs with a sajdah…happiness comes with a sincere du’a…Allah Does Not forget the good you do…nor Do He Forget the good you did to others and the pain you relieved them from…Nor Will He Forget the eye which was about to cry but you made it laugh…

Live your life with this principle: Be good even if you don’t receive good…not because of other’s sake but because Allah Loves the good doers”.

Ibn Qayyim

* Insults, life & market places *

 

Upon being insulted, Abu AdDardaa – the companion of the Prophet (PBUH) responded:

” يا هذا لا تغرقنَّ في سبنا ودع للصلح موضعاً ، فإنا لا نكافئ من عصى الله فينا بأكثر من أن نطيع الله عزّ وجلّ فيه “

“O so and so, do not go overboard in insulting me and keep room for reconciliation, for I respond to those who disobey Allah with regards to me by obeying Allah with regards to them.”

A man insulted Imam Ash-Sha’bi, so he responded:

إن كنتُ كما قلتَ فغفر الله لي ، وإن لم أكن كما قلتَ فغفر الله لك

“If I am as you say, then may Allah pardon me, and if I am not, then may Allah pardon you.”

A man said to Diraar Ibnul Qa’qaa’,

والله لو قلتَ واحدةً لسمعت عشراً

“By Allah, if you insult me just once, I will respond with ten!”
He responded,

والله لو قلتَ عشراً ما سمعتَ واحدة

“By Allah, if you insulted me ten times, I will not even respond with one.”

Allah said,
وَإِذَا خَاطَبَهُمُ الْجَاهِلُونَ قَالُوا سَلاماً

“and when the ignorant address them harshly, they say words of peace” (Al-Qur’aan, Surah 25, Ayah 63)

The believer has so much on his mind with regards to his journey to Allah and the Home of the Hereafter that his/her heart finds no place within it to store the insults of people, nor do they possess the time to think much over them.

They compare life to a market place that lasts very briefly, and in the end, some walk away having made profits whilst others having lost everything.

Ali Hammuda

On Tarbiyah (upbringing).

Tarbiyyah (upbringing) of children is among the greatest deeds that do not cease, for every good deed that they learn and act upon the reward is for the one who taught them, and if they go on to teach their children the reward would be for the first teacher.

تربية الأولاد من أعظم الأعمال التي لا تنقطع، فكل عمل صالح تعلموه وعملوا به فالأجر لمن علّمهم ولو علَّموا ذرياتهم لكان الأجر للمعلّم الأول

Sh Abdul Aziz at-Tarefe

How do I become a Muslim?

The Shahada can be declared as follows :

“ASH-HADU AN LA ELAHA ILLA-ALLAH WA ASH-HADU ANNA MOHAMMADAN RASUL-ALLAH”.

The English translation is :

“I bear witness that there is no deity (none truly to be worshipped) but, Allah, and I bear witness that Mohammad is the messenger of Allah.”

However, it would not be sufficient for anyone to only utter this testimony oraly either in private or in public; but rather, he should believe in it by heart with a firm conviction and unshakeable faith. If one is truly sincere and complies with the teachings of Islam in all his life, he will find himself a new born person.

More here.

* Pain free day for a change? *

* Pain free day for a change? *

Imam Ibnul Jawzi says,

وليس في الدنيا على الحقيقة لذة، إنما هي راحة من مؤلم

“In reality, Dunya does not have *real* pleasures to offer. All it offers is relief from pains.” (From his book, ‘Saydul Khaatir’)

Doesn’t the following sound so familiar:

“I didn’t have a headache today! Alhamdulillah!”

“I wasn’t abused today, what a change!”

“I haven’t been slated by the media for a whole month, Allahu akbar!”

[….] and every one of us can fill in that blank accordingly.

However, did Imam Ibnul Jawzi say this to demoralise the reader? For, many people are miserable with life as it is!

Not at all, but for the polar opposite reason..

To encourage us to work with passion and excitement for the life to come.

وَمَا هَذِهِ الْحَيَاةُ الدُّنْيَا إِلَّا لَهْوٌ وَلَعِبٌ وَإِنَّ الدَّارَ الْآخِرَةَ لَهِيَ الْحَيَوَانُ لَوْ كَانُوا يَعْلَمُونَ

“And what is the life of this world but amusement and play?

But the home of the Hereafter – *that* is the life, if only they knew.”

(Al-Qur’an, Surah 29, Ayah 64)

Ali Hammuda